As 2017 winds down, a new year is just around the corner and what does that mean? Everyone's favorite: LISTS! Here are my.....5 Steps to Help You Achieve Your Goals
From the mind of an eccentric hopeful in his 20s
[Disclaimer: This list comprised of information that is utterly my perspective, opinion, and I, like many of you out there, am still very much a work in progress but I strive for greatness and expect no less of myself! These are a couple of the lessons and truths I've learned along the way.]
1. Have Goals
This goes without saying, in order to conquer your goals (on the path to you sitting on an island sipping bottomless margs)- you must first, actually have goals!
Having a job in this day and age is great, you're already on your way to making life's currency. Good for you! But like the saying goes, unless your some sort of savant or CEO, you will always be Just Over Broke - chasing that next promotion, heeding to every command of your micromanaging boss, whilst you scurry amongst your peers in the rat race. It's understandable, we've all found ourselves here- but finding our way out separates the average from the willing. Finding out what you love to do comes with time and the answers are not always apparent. It takes years for some to figure out their "side hustle" and even longer to prioritize it as their main daily exertion of energy.
So: HAVE GOALS! And make them simplistic in nature. Schedule your free time around accomplishing them and build a mindset of crushing your days, squandering no minutes to the useless, and perpetually you will find yourself inching your way to the six pack, million dollar bungalow, or new Ferrari you've always wanted. These are just some examples, but find your own and use them to fuel your newfound drive to make your dreams a reality.
Realizing and actualizing step one is a time consuming process and even though we'd love to do it all, we essentially can't. But the sooner you get it, the faster you'll get where you want to be.
2. Face Your Faults
I confess, I am and have been a chronic procrastinator. Heck, I was stuck for months in the planning and eating Cheetos phase of my eventual world domination. It took me to having to absolutely exhaust every outlet of my boredom before I actually stretched-out my dormant fingers and got working on this blog. But like many of you, my college habits sort of stuck with me, except now you're in the real world and what you do directly correlates with how much you make and who you will end up becoming in the long run. Would you like to be known as a nobody? Well if not, get it moving bucko! Dr. Miller from 1996's Twister said best, "Today, we're gonna make history, so stick around. 'Cause the days of sniffing dirt are over!" In essence: Conquer your storm.
Beating procrastination is a hard fault to overcome but after a brief stint with the magic mushroom in Amsterdam, I'm more than ready to define my days and become more productive as a result of it. As grim as it may sound our days are numbered my friends and we need to grasp reality daily if we want to persevere past mediocrity. A helpful source of guidance I've found, has been reading books. A precursor to deep insightfulness, books, specifically self-help books, the motivational kind - were a huge helping hand as I pushed through the months of post-grad. Some of these books have helped me at my lowest/highest and the inspiration they have provided me is endless. If we can learn even one new thing from any book, it makes it all worthwhile. Some of my favorites are listed below:
From Procrastination to Production by Jeffery Combs
The Defining Decade by Meg Jay, PhD
Think and Grow Rich by Napoleon Hill
The Miracle Morning by Hal Elrod
I Will Teach You To Be Rich by Ramit Sethi
3. Build a Team
Even though I'd like to think I could do everything myself, more often than not, I cannot. The idea of building a team by far has been one of the most underwhelming things I have done or thought of. Essentially because, it was there all along- I just didn't see it for what it was. The people you come across in life will influence you in various ways, you'll get into heaps of trouble with some and others will guide you into the light. Like philosophers of the past have said, you are the culmination of the 5 people closest to you (not physically but interactively). And I think it's objectively true as environmental influences play a huge role in our lives. Your closest circle will motivate you, helping you push through obstacles and help you achieve yourself beyond what you thought was capable. So think to yourself. When you're with your friends or family, are you gaining positively, socially, mentally, and/or physically, or are your views oppressed and feel as though no one is here to hear your story? Think about your immediate circle.
The ideal group will consist of a few pillars that will define the overall congruity and uniformity of said group. The team must act as one, even though all are very different and play their specific roles. Positive encouragement and inspiration must be consistent factors in conversation and daily proceedings. Facing problems and triumphing over them head first can sometimes be daunting but the slightest bit of hope can go a long way. So surround yourself with people who will help get you there. Get you where you want to be. People who inspire you. People who care for you. And most importantly, people who will unconditionally be there for you whether you are down in the dumps or flying high on cloud 9. And in return, selflessly be that person for as many as YOU can. Because the world works in funny ways and spreading your positive aura will one day come back and lift you up when you need it most.
4. Think It, Do It
This may come to surprise to some but I've faced crippling anxiety for the greater part of my teen years and young adulthood. When the going gets tough, I've frozen and been incapable of completing what tasks I've tried to accomplish. But time and time again, I've put myself out there, and really tried to make the best of the jitters using them to propel me forward. For those who need some perspective, for me, feeling anxious essentially is being so wound up in your own head that you feel as though someone has a grip on your brain as you seek solitude in nothingness. Remember, it's all in your head - I'd tell myself. Becoming more self-aware and ever-present has allowed me to surpass any fallacies of my emotions. Remember the task at hand and go after it. Think it, do it.
Balancing a life of work, play, hustle, play, and inventive, fiery passion is a difficult endeavor for anybody to undertake, let alone the highly driven. The biological clock of time is always ticking so everyday is a new reason to prove to yourself that you are gifted, you are worthy, and you will achieve your goals.
5. Treat Yourself
Lastly, don't forget to treat yourself!
All things in life require a bit of moderation but definitely splurge when you think you deserve it. Now don't let this get out of hand and become some sort of soulless shopaholic burying themselves in credit card debt, but go ahead! Get yourself that spa day you deserve or go out on the town with some friends. You're the sh*t, you owned it this week, so get out there and keep crushing it tiger. Each day is a new mission and lately we've been hitting nothing but home runs. So treat yourself and at the end of all that, get back to work, 'cus these goals won't conquer them self.
Some of my personal favorite treats include: Little Debbie Fudge Brownies (seriously though, I'm wildly addicted), movie night with the family / special someone, night out on the town, new toys, technology, &/or apparel.
Hope this list of motivational steps to reach your goals are helpful! Let me know what helps churn your butter and makes you tick when it comes to accomplishing YOUR goals.
Tell me in the comment section below!